What I've learned so far deschooling

1. I have learned that the behavior of others should not dictate my behavior.
2. I want to be able to actually have conversations with my children.
3. I want to know what they are interested in.
4. I need to focus on the positive aspects of my children rather than riding them about the things that could be improved.
5. I need to include them in daily living so that they will model those behaviors.
6. I need to have behavior that I don't mind them modeling.
7. I can't throw my issues (ie, anger, uncertainty, frustration, etc.) off on them.
8. I can decide what kind of parent I need to be in order to have children that are autodidactic independent thinkers that love to learn.

I will continue this journey of self discovery, but I have to admit that I am really enjoying getting to know myself and them. Sunshine and I even played this game that I bought from a game company called Simply Fun. It is just a keyring with conversation starters...or more like questions that you might not ever think to ask. LOL Anyway, we talked for about an hour just playing around with that. For the first time I feel like we had a real conversation. She is quite a wonderful girl. To bad it took me this long to really figure that out, but we are on our way to a much better relationship.

I LOVE BOB!!!

Bob Books are the bomb. My son is in first grade and behind, IMO, in reading. He is not behind due to any learning issues. Now that I am his teacher I have figured out why he is so very behind. He was missing all of the foundational knowledge for both reading and writing. He knew all the phonetic sounds, but couldn't put them together. He had no confidence whatsoever, so even when he know a word already he was scared to just take chance and say it. That wouldn't be so bad if it weren't for the fear on his face. There were lots of other problems, but we reviewed the letters and their sounds and started the books. He is on the third one. I am so proud. He reads a new one each day after rereading the one from the day before. Of course we move along as he is able and I get overly excite about anything he reads. He is also able to follow the simple and cute story lines.


I know that I look mildly psychotic, but I haven't been feeling well since about Thursday and haven't had any sleep. So maybe due to lack of sleep I am mildly psychotic. LOL

Crab Fight & Shell Change

I have been trying to post this since last week. I thought it was kind of cool. Anyway, this video is of our crabs fighting over the pink shell. The one in the blue shell was originally in the pink shell, but decided to change to the blue. The green one then decided that he wanted the pink shell, at which time the blue one decided he wanted it back and the fight ensued. I really hope you enjoy it, because I have been praying that this video would upload. LOL

What Is Your Goal?

My goal for dd and ds is what is living according to the 4 L's. Live, Love, Laugh, Learn.

Live in the moment. Enjoy where you are right now. Don't worry about what has happened or what will happen. Just be right here right now. That is all God is asking you to handle.

Love deeply. I have prayed to God that he let people feel loved when they are around me. I want my children to learn this too. I am reading a book that is teaching me the 7 points of love which are: Kindness, Patience, Forgiveness, Humility, Courtesy, Generosity, & Honesty. If any of these is missing in a relationship it will be found lacking the fullness of love. We will be working on these constantly and asking in every situation, especially difficult ones, if any of these is missing.

Laugh hard, loud, and often. This is among my favorites because I love to laugh. I think most things are funny. When my husband I get into a heated discussion it always ends in laughter. I love to hear other people laugh especially my husband and children.


This is a birthday party we had for my husband, which is why I have on that outfit. LOL

Learn as much as you can while you can. I have learned that I am an autodidact. I love learning, but I am self taught. I haven't finished my associates degree, because I hate taking classes that I am not interested in. For the sake of finishing what I start I am going to finish it, but I know more about myself now. I know now that I will probably never have a higher degree, but I will always take classes and be self taught. I want my children to grow in their desire to know. I want them to want to know any and everything. I want to stir up that curiosity that has been put into a dormant state by large classroom sizes and one size fits all learning.